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What’s Up:
The loneliness pandemic isn’t as real as you’ve been told, and chasing it may be wasting your church’s precious resources.
So What:
The real need isn’t fixing a loneliness crisis. It’s building meaningful relationships with people who don’t know Jesus. That’s where we’re still failing.
The Point Is:
The Epidemic Is Overstated
Despite all the headlines, the latest research says loneliness isn’t growing the way we think. Alone time is up, but just a smidge, but actual loneliness? Nope.
We Can’t Afford Distractions
Building ministry strategies around a false flag drains time, money, and energy. Most churches don’t have the margin for that kind of waste.
Isolation Is the Real Issue
The problem isn’t cultural loneliness. It’s the church isolating itself from the unchurched. We’ve left the smoking section, and so we’ve lost our mission field.
Relationships Still Matter
Everyone still craves community. What the church offers must be built on intentional, spiritually grounded, judgment-free relationships.
And … ?
According to Psychology Today, the loneliness narrative is more myth than epidemic. Author Dr. Mark Travers breaks down how alone time has only increased by around 24 minutes over two decades, and large-scale studies show that many groups, including younger demographics, are actually reporting decreased loneliness. That means the church may be spending its energy solving a problem that doesn’t exist at scale. Planning more events or launching more programs under the assumption that everyone is desperate for connection isn’t just ineffective … it can become missional misdirection.
Here’s the real issue: The church has become socially and spiritually isolated from those who need Jesus. The unchurched aren’t showing up to church events in part because they don’t know anyone inside. (Here are the three key reasons visitors aren’t showing up.) We’ve created a culture where Christians hang out with Christians, and evangelism has become something that happens inside a program instead of across a dinner table. So what to do? Start here: Get out of your bubble. Be the one who makes space for conversation in the neighborhood, in the community center, or at the school board meeting. Build relationships because people matter, not because of a mythical epidemic. Because mission isn’t about solving loneliness. It’s about making disciples.
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